The narcissist's communication is a cipher, it is coded. Here are two simple rules: 1. The narcissist is never sad - and always mad (at you) and bad; and 2. When the narcissist says "I am bad" (is ostensibly repentant), he means to say "I am afraid" (of the consequences of his actions)
Envelope: reasonable, flexible/compromising, socially-acceptable, commonsensical
Hidden/occult coded message which triggers (pushes buttons) based on shared past experiences and speech acts
Hidden not accessible or comprehensible, so people tend to think that something is wrong with you when you try to share it and enlighten them
Techniques:
Countrtfactuality or non-facticity: big picture agreed, now to the details (shared psychosis)
Victim stance and language never mind what you do or say, you are always the abuser (role): comfort zone, projective identification
Projection because imagined victimhood is confabulated: encouraging ego dystony, shame, guilt tripping, self doubt
Gaslighting via equivocation (“maybe”), challenge to reality testing, rewriting history
Hostility disguised as formality
Manipulativeness and coercion, provocation
Ignoring you and your input/requests
Malingering, procrastination
Perfectionism
Forgetfulness
Neglect
Truancy
intentional inefficiency
stubbornness
pseudo-stupidity
outright sabotage
Use lawyers to respond
Palindromic Speech
There are three types of manipulative speech:
Victim
Child
Psychopathic
Lying and Confabulating
Abusing Speech Acts: Three Examples
Big Picture Evasiveness
Alloplastic Defenses and Shifting Blame
Passive-aggressive Gaslighting
No Reasoning with the Mentally Ill
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Envelope: reasonable, flexible/compromising, socially-acceptable, commonsensical
Hidden/occult coded message which triggers (pushes buttons) based on shared past experiences and speech acts
Hidden not accessible or comprehensible, so people tend to think that something is wrong with you when you try to share it and enlighten them
Techniques:
Countrtfactuality or non-facticity: big picture agreed, now to the details (shared psychosis)
Victim stance and language never mind what you do or say, you are always the abuser (role): comfort zone, projective identification
Projection because imagined victimhood is confabulated: encouraging ego dystony, shame, guilt tripping, self doubt
Gaslighting via equivocation (“maybe”), challenge to reality testing, rewriting history
Hostility disguised as formality
Manipulativeness and coercion, provocation
Ignoring you and your input/requests
Malingering, procrastination
Perfectionism
Forgetfulness
Neglect
Truancy
intentional inefficiency
stubbornness
pseudo-stupidity
outright sabotage
Use lawyers to respond
Palindromic Speech
There are three types of manipulative speech:
Victim
Child
Psychopathic
Lying and Confabulating
Abusing Speech Acts: Three Examples
Big Picture Evasiveness
Alloplastic Defenses and Shifting Blame
Passive-aggressive Gaslighting
No Reasoning with the Mentally Ill
Find and Buy MOST of my BOOKS and eBOOKS in my Amazon Store: https://www.amazon.com/stores/page/60F8EC8A-5812-4007-9F2C-DFA02EA713B3
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